Have you ever gotten a new piece of information that literally changed the way you saw everything? Like going from 2D to 3D and the new perspective profoundly enriched the depth of your experience and understanding? This is one of those moments.
You have the capacity to shift the disposition of your heart. You have control of selecting your moods and there is a simple tool to help you do that. Whether you fill up your heart with love or anger your heart activates two major things; first, it radiates an energetic field now measured by scientists out 16 feet communicating the mood you are in and second, it sends signals to your brain to “serve up” communications to your mouth and body that reflect your hearts’ current disposition. Simply said, when your heart is angry, resentful, or frustrated your heart beams out that message blasting the other person and well, we all know the result of that. On the flipside, love, kindness and compassion blast an energetic message of openness, partnership, and connection and the heart generates signals to the brain to serve up options that support that disposition. The life changing information is that it is about the feeling in your heart, not necessarily how you feel about that person. Ah, the key. Generate the feeling and the entire world changes!!!! Of course the ultimate step is to feel compassion for that person but this puts you well on your way!
One day my boss and I were having a heated argument ending in stalemate. If I returned to the discussion angry then all these tiny communication pods would blast his field and well, how could I expect anything different! Seconds before entering his office for another round, I shifted my heart filling it up with compassion and kindness. I couldn’t quite muster up feeling compassionate and kind about him but I could generate the feeling in my heart using other memories. In a millisecond, everything shifted and a completely different conversation unfolded and resulted with an amenable solution. Surprisingly I ended up having compassion and kindness for him. It was so miraculous, and the results so much richer, that I vowed to continue this practice until my last breath.
Why not put this knowledge to good use? Shift your consciousness to respond from the heart versus the head. Don’t wait for an experience to shape your mood (especially with the kind we don’t want), seize the moment and DECIDE to fill up your heart with love and let it flow with joy. We already know how to shift our heart disposition (despite the outward circumstances) and we usually do it many times a day. CHOOSE to do it consciously, purposefully, and more often. Like this. Sit back, close your eyes (well, in a minute after the instructions), and think about one of the most happy moments in your life….getting married, holding your baby for the first time, walking in the majesty of the earth, laughing at the funniest thing you’ve ever heard. OK, now take your consciousness to your heart. Notice it. Feel it. What is happening to it? Warm? Big? Relaxed? Beaming? Free? How did it change from the moment earlier? See, you did it just like that. It only took you seconds and all you had to do was recall something that shifted your mood.
These dispositions will SIGNIFICANTLY ENHANCE THE OUTCOME FOR ALL. It’s far different from only accessing the brain. The intelligence of the heart is not linear. It is holographic, meaning that at any point of the heart’s energy field, all knowledge of the whole is present. Unlike the brain, the heart gives us universal characteristic instead of individual characteristic. When you approach the difficult client; the boss or co-worker that you don’t like; the spouse that you are having an argument with; options are made available that would not have surfaced if your heart was angry. Isn’t that what you want anyway? You aren’t giving anything up. You both win.
So, take the first step and practice, practice, practice. Decide how you want to BE, FEEL, and WALK in this world despite external circumstances. It’s easy to do it with people we like. It’s not so easy to do it with those “difficult people” but, WOW it is sooooo worth it!! It will launch you into new levels of communication, connection, success and fulfillment in every area of your life.
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YOUR VOICE, YOUR PATH, YOUR LIFE!
If there is one thing I’ve learned in life it’s that we must find and live our own unique “one-of-a-kind” life. Not our parents, best friend, sibling or even someone we admire. Nope! It’s a path uniquely designed for us. As much as we’d like someone to tell us “Do it this way” it just doesn’t work that way. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could ask experts and get the right answer for us? Life; it’s the one thing we must figure out for ourselves.
How does finding your unique path relate to work? Family? Finances? Health? Fun? IT IS WHAT MAKES UP YOUR LIFE! It is the gazillion choices we make every millisecond that builds our life! Can you recall those moments when your choices felt right and didn’t feel like your path. What happened? You knew the difference because things didn’t feel right. You had to force to get things the way you wanted them. It was difficult to the point you thought “what is going on here”. This illustration says it all!
Courtesy of Dave Ellis and Breakthrough Enterprises
There is a split second in time that we have to choose a decision – the fork in the road. We get to choose; scenic path or psychopath! Sometimes we know we are choosing the psychopath and yet we still do it!!! I can remember hundreds of decisions that either felt like my path or a detour; some big decisions and others really small. In my 20′s, I turned down a lucrative job offer with a Fortune 50 company without another offer on the table because it didn’t quite feel right (try explaining that to family and friends). I didn’t know why. Everything on paper looked amazing but my heart said “no”. Many thought I was crazy but I held true to my heart. Years later I understood that if I had taken that offer then I wouldn’t have met my amazing husband.
One of my coaching clients was describing specific ways she wanted to change her approach to a potential client. She was really excited, scared and a bit nervous but she really felt great about what she put together for her potential client. They loved it and took the entire presented package at $80,000! No more “psychopath”. We have to struggle between the heart speaking and the intellect to make all kinds of choices. It’s tricky especially when there is financial or emotional pressures!!!
Then somehow by a huge miracle, we choose the scenic path. We stumble onto our path and it’s like getting in a boat and allowing the current to pull us without “hardship”. You know what I’m talking about. It’s tangible, we feel this shift and things happen with ease. No worry, no stress, and there is joy! Things easily click into sync and it feels so right that all the prior struggles to conform to other people’s path just became so worth it and we vow to never doubt again. Some people call it the flow, harmonic path, in sync, in the zone, one with the universe. Whatever you want to call it, we all experience it AND yet each path is so completely different. The question is how do we do it more!!! How do we find our path and reduce the number of trips to the psychopath? Here are a few tips that really work.
In order to connect with your inner self, you must slow down. It takes time, concentration and focus.
When you eliminate the word “should” – what should I do – and insert the word “what is the best thing for me/what do I want to do”, then you get an answer that is based solely on you and not the entire universe that encompasses the “should” word.
When something really feels right, take note of how your body feels. Where are you getting the “yes” answer from? Your gut? Your heart? Goose bumps? Everyone has their own system and it’s invaluable to find your own. It is your natural built in system of making decisions.
Once you recognize it, use it, practice using it for everything – what your body needs to eat, friends, accepting or declining a job, new client, flights – practice using it. Build it up so that you can use it as your most accurate tool to making choices in the moment thus building your own path.
Learn how to say CONFIDENTLY “It’s the right thing for me”. Yep. See, you can do it!
The great thing about finding your unique path is that when you do, there is an indescribable joy; your heart expands, you are more loving, generous, kind, patient, thoughtful, creative……and when that happens it is a gift for all mankind!!!!